Brady DeAngelo | November 1st, 2023
Those who run in romantic circles like to use the phrase “There’s someone for everyone.” It’s a phrase that’s been uttered by countless romantics for centuries, it’s brought comfort to the lonely, and it’s the foundation of every rom-com, but it’s BS!
I’m being honest, and my honesty doesn’t have to be taken as a negative. It can bring comfort if you see the silver lining in that only cloud floating in the beautiful blue sky.
Let’s start with someone diagnosed as paranoid schizophrenic. They’re paranoid, can’t carry on conversations, some hear voices and see things, they have a hard time making connections with others, many can’t hold a job and are homeless, some are institutionalized for life, and even though it’s not their fault, more than likely, some won’t ever find someone. Dying alone after a very hard life.
Did I go to the extreme? Maybe but here’s a stat…
1.1 percent of the world’s population is paranoid schizophrenic. Our planet has about 7.53 billion people. That’s a total of 75,300,000 paranoid schizophrenics on our planet, and let’s play it EXTREMELY conservative. Let’s say half do find love because of treatment. That leaves 37,650,000 people who will never know what it’s like to love someone.
37 million. I guess that is extreme, but in favor for what I’m presenting.
That’s one example of many. Let’s list other things that may prevent, or make it difficult for someone ever finding love…
- Mental disabilities or mental illness.
- Terminal illness.
- People who were abused and can’t hold a relationship together.
- Those who aren’t physically attractive.
After looking at that conservative list and doing the math, would you agree the number of people who will never be able to experience a life partner, could be in the 100’s of millions?
As sad and depressing as that seems, there’s the possibility you can meet someone, but even if you don’t, so what?
If you’re able to walk, talk, think clearly, in decent health and have everything it takes to have a good life, do you really need a long-lasting relationship to feel fulfilled?
No. You actually don’t.
I won’t jump on my “society brainwashes” rant when it comes to finding love, destiny, story book BS and all the romance propaganda out there, but there’s some ideas that aren’t true.
The biggest one… We can’t die alone, happy and fulfilled.
How do those on that list manage to find happiness? Have you bought the idea that they’re all dying unhappy? Because if you did, you’re not giving them enough credit. Credit they deserve because they live with that fact, but many got past it knowing they’ll probably never meet someone yet found happiness and fulfillment. Many will die happier than a good portion of those who are married and those believing they found love.
They key is to make your own happiness not involving someone else, and that gives you the perfect excuse to be selfish! It’s more than an excuse. I think it’s a requirement for life, regardless if you’re in a relationship or not.
Figuring out what makes you happy may not be easy. It takes a ton of work for some people because they spent their lives trying to make others happy or found happiness by being with someone. They never had the awesome opportunity of discovering how great being with just themselves is. They don’t know any better. How could they?
In case you haven’t realized it, it’s all in your head. You trained yourself to believe you need to be with someone. The idea of being alone and happy may never have crossed your mind, but if you’re alone now and worried you may never find love, maybe it should cross your mind? Maybe it should scare you?
Maybe you should fully embrace that fear and the possibility that you may never meet someone, but find comfort in the fact that you can find happiness regardless, because it’s true. There’s millions of people walking around showing it can be done. Proving there isn’t someone for everyone.
All it’s going to take is figuring out what makes you happy.
Now that you know that there ‘Isn’t Someone For Everyone’ read ‘Part 2’ and what I learned after coming to this realization.